One danger of all this fathering stuff is that you can have the male equivalent of the Superwoman syndrome — the career success/super stud/super dad triangle which could give you a heart attack on the spot. Fatherhood is the time to become mellow, and learn to accept moderation and balance in all your roles. If possible, it’s a good idea to relax in your job for a while. You have hit the slow track.

John, 27 ‘You drag yourself out of the baby-struck household, miraculously cleaned up and tidied, like a lotus rising out of the stink-ing swamp. As you’re about to leave, your wife hands you the baby to cuddle for a minute. You arrive at work, immaculate in your